Friend Why Have You Come?

Posted: September 10, 2013 in Christianity, faith, God, Jesus Christ, Uncategorized
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There is a popular saying that says that people come into life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.  That some people come into your life as a blessing and some as a lesson.  My thinking—there are some lessons I would rather avoid if I can help it—especially in regards to unnecessary people in my life.

The bible says that as Judas,  who was suppose to be a friend, approached Jesus to turn him over to his adversaries and ultimately betray him, Jesus said to him, “….Friend, why have you come?”(Mattew 26:50, NKJV).  Some people side with the devil and come intentionally to cause difficulties in your life.   Others are just innocent pawns.  Caught up in their own bondage and with their own issues, they may unwittingly be a source of trouble to others.  Friend could be generic for anyone who comes into you life–an actual friend, love-interest or even family.   These days because the devil is so crafty and disguises himself in all packages, shapes and sizes, we have to consider Jesus’s inquiry in our own lives  today:

Friend why have you come 
To be a snare to me?
Sabotage all that I have
Ruin my destiny…..

-These are the folks who want what you have or even worse, although they may have much,  they just can’t stand to see others do well. Jealousy and envy are their driving forces.  Yeah they smile in your face, all the while trying to take your place. You know the rest. They get close enough to you so they can twist the knife in your back and make sure you are bleeding from all sides. Might try to act like they have your best interest at heart, but deep down they want to see you fall. Hurt people go on to hurt people.  These folks have some deep hurt or unresolved issues that has not been dealt with so they deal with their pathology by trying to destroy others.  On the flip side,  the trap of the enemy may not be the specific person themselves.  But the enemy may try to access your life through someone they are affiliated with. For instance, I dated a guy who wasn’t  a bad person. His family on the other hand–not so nice.  Lesson:  Anybody in this category, best to  cut lose. Pray for you, love you from a distance, but got to keep it moving.  You can’t walk with me if the intention is to destroy me.  Deuces.

Friend why did you come? 
To be a parasite?
Because you see me going higher
You feeding off my light….

You may remember from your science days that a parasite is an organism that grows, feeds, and is sheltered on or in a different organism.  Not in all cases, but in most cases parasites don’t really benefit the host (www.freedictionary.com\parasite).  The host supplies, the parasite takes.  These are the nuisances  that see your gifts, talents and your anointing and they want to attach themselves and reap all the benefits of your journey,  your hard work and the grace God has given you.   They have no inkling of what  you have to go through to be who you are, carry the load you have to carry and fulfill your purpose, but for some reason they have the audacity to think they deserve to be a part of you.   According to wikepedia parasites tend to be smaller than their host. Translation:  small minded,  low ambition, low self-esteem.  Resolution:  Whether they try to attach to the outside or to your spirit deep within, why carry something that is draining the life out of you?  Flush them off, pry them off, get them out of your system.  Your eviction notice is served! But I’ll be praying—deuces.

Friend why have you come 
To leave me weak and drained?
Do you think I am your savior
I can heal all your pain?

Then there are the needy folks.  These folks  kind of have that parasitic mentality as well.   They may not intentionally attach to you for specific benefits or getting ahead, but they are parasitic in that they drain you with their issues, their needs and their problems. Nothing wrong with being a shoulder to cry on, a listening ear or being a support, but when the relationship is unbalanced where you are disproportionately giving more than you are receiving or that friendship is a burden, it’s time to go.  You continually overextend and sacrifice and you are not getting that effort in return. These folks might have been hurt by other people especially  friends in the past, so if they find some comfort in you they may become a tad too attached for your liking.  If not careful they want to monopolize you all for themselves and have a problem with you having outside friendships besides the one you share with them.  Resolution:  I can be there to  support, but it is not my assignment to carry or cure sick friends.  That can only be Jesus.  I think you better call him.

Friend why have you come?
For me you want the best
As you journey along side me
Indeed I’m truly blessed
Your love, support and most of all loyalty
Your presence being in my life make me a better me

This is the ideal relationship–the one that helps you thrive and grow.  The essence of this connection is that it is symbiotic based on the traditional scientific definition: a mutually beneficial relationship involving close physical contact between two organisms that aren’t the same species(http://science.howstuffworks.com/life/evolution/symbiosis1.htm). Both parties benefit as each is giving and receiving equally.  These are the relationships where you are loved in spite of you.  Loved in spite of your flaws, faults and shortcomings. Where you are allowed to be yourself,  yet you are challenged to become a better person.  Secure in and able to love themselves, they can in turn genuinely love you.  They rejoice when you rejoice, grieve when you grieve, fight for you and uphold you.  They are the rare exception where water can be as thick as or thicker than blood.  They come as a help, not a hinderance; an asset not a liability; a benefit not a a curse to your life.   Resolution:  Strive to be that type of friend and to have these type of people in your life.  If you let God chose, these are the treasures God will send to be a blessing.  Very often they look like Jesus.

Remember when they  use to  say he or she is a drag?  You can’t rise with drags weighing you down….and yet still I rise

With peace and blessings may you continue to rise always,

Stillirise323

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  1. Tanya Lawrence says:

    Hey dr. I have a friend that would like to receive your blogs nikeysunshine@yahoo.com. thanks you can put her on she is a pa here wonderful christian young lady

  2. Thanks so much for sharing the blog and for the support Tanya. I will send her an invite or she can come directly to the site at http://www.andyetstillirise.wordpress.com and join by hitting follow. If you know of anyone else interested they can join the blog that way. Tell your friend if she doesn’t see the invite in her regular mail, check her spam. Again thanks so much. God bless you!

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